Where in the hell are you getting that information from?

If so, he has a point. Whether there’s a cleaning fee or not, 99% of guests will leave their room relatively clean. In other words, they won’t leave food or trash all over the floor. Their room won’t be spotlessly clean, but they will put their trash in the trash can – not on the floor. If we have a guest who does that, we don’t really mind because we do charge a cleaning fee and that’s what it’s for. But we will not give them 5 stars on cleanliness. We’d give them 4 or 3 depending on how bad it was. In your case, we’d probably give you a 3.

Most guests truly do treat our homes as if they’re their own. When they cook, they’re considerate enough and polite enough to clean up the pots and pans and dishes they use. We don’t even ask them to. We just ask them to leave everything in the sink and we’ll put it in the dishwasher later. But most people clean their things anyway. So, if you come in and don’t even clean up after yourself during your stay, and if you brought more guests than you originally informed him of and if you left cereal all over the floor – that would all add up to a huge annoyance for us or any other host as well.

As a host, if I read your review of him and his response to you, I would decline your reservation request. You sound like trouble. If you don’t want to have this problem in the future, you really should treat wherever you stay like your home, not like a hotel. It’s not a hotel. It’s someone’s private home.